One of my passions in life is to read and discuss Christian Marriage Books. I love to learn and understand the relationships between men and women, especially marriage. Although I don't know if all of the authors of these Christian Marriage books are themselves Christian (although most are), I feel as a Christian these books are excellent, and appropriate, resources to help develop and improve a Christian Marriage.
Of all the Christian marriage books I've read, His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-proof Marriage by Willard F. Harley, Jr. is the number one book I recommend to all couples, both those who've been married for years and those who are newlyweds. I often give this book as a wedding gift because if there is one thing I could give a couple to help them have a happy marriage it is knowledge- the knowledge in this fabulous book.
The power of this book is understanding your own needs and those of your spouse while your spouse comes to understand his/her needs as well as yours. The truths in this book are necessary for all couples in developing and maintaining a happy, successful Christian marriage. Please don't miss or dismiss it!
This fabulous book by LDS author, Laura M. Brotherson, is entitled, And They Were Not Ashamed: Strengthening Marriage through Sexual Fulfillment, and it does just that. This book focuses on a couple's physical, emotional, and sexual intimacy and although it specifically addresses the needs and concerns of women, it is for both the husband and wife.
I believe that one of the keys to this book's success is that the author teaches the "Good Girl Syndrome" and helps women learn that joyful and pleasurable sex in marriage is both good and right. If you (or your wife) struggle with feelings that sex is bad, evil, or dirty then this is the right book for you and will help you improve your Christian marriage.
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: the Classic Guide to Understanding the opposite Sex by John Gray is a well known book which I think perfectly fits in this list of Christian marriage books. Gray's book is insightful as he explains the differences between men and women. I especially like how he teaches wives to stop trying to improve and change their husbands but to accept them how they are, and teaches husbands to stop trying to fix their wives' problems and instead listen and give them the support and empathy they are seeking.
All couples seeking to improve their Christian marriage should include this book in their library.
4. Love Busters
This book, Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love, is also by Willard F. Harley, Jr. author of His Needs, Her Needs. This Christian marriage book helps teach couples how to recognize and overcome the following common habits that destroy love in marriage:
- selfish demands
- annoying habits
- angry outbursts
- disrespectful judgments
- independent behavior, and
If you regularly experience or exhibit any of these destructive habits, I recommend first reading this book with your spouse and then reading His Needs, Her Needs.
Another great book by John Gray is, Mars and Venus in the Bedroom: a Guide to Lasting Romance and Passion, and is an excellent resource to help a couple develop a satisfying sexual relationship in their Christian marriage. Gray teaches that passion in a long-term, monogamous marriage can last when a husband and wife come to "understand, accept, and appreciate each other's differences in the bedroom" (from front flap). Greater romance, passion, intimacy, and sexual fulfillment can be developed by understanding your spouse's emotional and physical needs.
I consider this an excellent candidate for this list of Christian marriage books because it is both informative and insightful in a respective and appropriate way.
This Christian marriage book, Between Husband and Wife: Gospel Perspectives on Marital Intimacy, was written by two LDS authors, Stephen E. Lamb and Douglas E. Brinley. For many couples "intimacy can become a source of guilt, frustration, and even conflict" (from front flap), so the authors teach the importance of improving marriage through sexual intimacy.
This book can help a couple develop, improve, or revitalize their sexual relationship and is appropriate for both married or engaged couples and can be used as a resource for Church leaders and counselors.
This Christian marriage book by Gary D. Chapman called, "The 5 Love Languages: the Secret to Love That Lasts" is a great little book and a good place to start learning how to develop a Christian marriage. I strongly feel, however, that the truths in this book are just a few "breadcrumbs" of knowledge compared to the "full course meal" you learn in Harley's "His Needs, Her Needs," but it's still worth the read. I especially think it can help a woman know which forms of affection are the strongest for her.
8. What We Wish We'd Known When We Were Newlyweds
Although this particular review of What We Wish We'd Known When We Were Newlyweds by John and Kimberly Bytheway is based on the audio CD it is perfectly adaptable to the book itself. As indicated by the title, the focus of this Christian marriage book is to help newlyweds during their first year of marriage and has some excellent tips that my husband and I enjoyed learning and implementing.
9. How to Date Your Wife
This full review is of the Christian marriage book, How to Date Your Wife, and is by Stan Cronin, a police officer who wrote it in an effort to help save marriages. The focus of this book is to help couples be aware of their dating habits and gives a list of "Fifty-two ideas for successful Dating and Marital Harmony" and is a great book for improving your Christian marriage through continued dating.