Celebrating Mother's Day may not always feel like a celebration, but a day of guilt, especially when we compare ourselves to other women. On Mother's Day we're reminded of all the things we should be doing, we hear how wonderful and "perfect" other mothers are, and we think how our lives and situations aren't like those of the women around us.
For the past few years Mother's Day has been bitterly painful for me. Last year, after crying throughout the entire church services and barely making it through the Relief Society lesson without bursting into sobs, I decided I'd had enough. When I returned home I decided that I wasn't going to put myself through that again.
The ironic thing is, that my mom (who is a FABULOUS mother) has always struggled with Mother's Day. I've always judged her for this as it was something I hadn't understood until last year.
This year things are different. This year Mother's Day is going to be wonderful, because instead of focusing on what we don't have, my mother and I are focusing on what we do have- which is each other. We have an amazing friendship and loving relationship. This year we are getting together on Mother's Day and celebrating it together. We are going to talk, have lunch, talk, do some crafts, and talk some more. (We do a lot of talking, just ask our husbands.)
For the first time in a long time my mother has been looking forward to Mother's Day. We're so excited to finally enjoy this holiday and celebrate it the way it should be celebrated. We just had to find what worked for us to be able to focus on all the great things about motherhood instead of dwelling on the painful aspects of motherhood.
How do you feel about Mother's Day? Do you love this holiday, or do you struggle with pain, guilt, and feelings of inadequacy? Share your thoughts in the comments or vote in this poll: Is Mother's Day Difficult for You?
Satan is trying to destroy us with negative thoughts and feelings, but that doesn't mean we have to listen to him. When you find yourself burdened what can you do to change your focus?